In today sociality, many might adhere the question, “why are so many children disobedient/rebellious?” Some may suggest it’s the parent fault, while others blame peer pressure within the school system. We all might think maybe there is a problem with the structure within the home or may be the child/children trying to “fit in” into society. Most kids watch television between 4 to 5 hours a day, while others are socializing on the internet. Facebook, twitter, instagram, and other social media are raising today’s youth. What a child sees on television, instantly they would want to become that person, whether it’s a positive role model or a thug on the streets. In other words, some kids love the attention and will do whatever it takes to receive some form of attention.
However, one of the founding problems is that many parents work two jobs and don’t have time for their kids. While others are too busy with their own lives, as if they do not have kids. Many children are growing up in a single parent home where the father (and in some cases the mother) is not in their lives to help with the discipline or just spend quality time with them. Most of the time, it can lead the child feeling “rejected”, which leads to disobedience. Many people do not know that rejection can take place at any time between conception and death. It’s symptoms may not always be apparent. A list of several ways rejection can appear:
- Rejection may be received by the manner or timing of conception (out of wedlock, rape, incest, adulterous relationship, parents did not want you).
- Rejection may be received in a mother’s womb (a mother’s attitude toward the child while in the womb, even a father’s displeasure)
- Rejection may be caused by the manner of birth (child born quickly, born with instrumental assistance, causing head distortions or injury)
- A baby not bonded to its mother soon after birth may received a sense of rejection.
- An adopted child (not feeling loved or being abandoned)
- Rejected parents produce rejected children.
The Word of God says, “Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close. Psalm 27:10 NLT
Therefore, common causes of rejection in the family home includes birth deformity, constant criticism by parents, unjust discipline, called names, sick or incapacitated, sexually molested, incest, unhappy parents who argue and fight, alcoholism of parents, embarrassment over family religious beliefs, differences made between siblings, parents showing no interest in the child at home. Also, problems caused by teachers or school mates. Being called names, based on physical feature, picked on by teachers or peers, made to feel inferior, and excluded from friends.
How rejections manifest it-self:
The roots of rejection produce three different fruit-bearing branches. Firstly, rejected people show a variety of aggressive attitudes. Secondly, they suffer from symptoms of self-rejection which may or may not be seen. Thirdly, motivated by their fear of rejection, they make constant attempts to avoid being rejected again. Most of the time you will see aggressive reactions such as refusing comfort, harshness, hardness, skepticism, unbelief , swearing, foul language, argumentativeness, stubbornness, rebellion, and fighting. While others may suffer self-rejection like, low self-esteem, inferiorities , insecurity, inadequacy, sadness, grief, sorrow, self-accusation, and self-condemnation, inability to or refusal to communicate, fear of failure, and fear of others opinions.
Nevertheless, a few measures to counter fear of self-rejection far as, striving, achievement performance, competition, withdrawal, aloneness, isolation, self-protectiveness, self-centeredness, selfishness, self-justification, and self-righteousness, anxiety, worry, depression, negative attitudes. Also, self-pity, ego, haughtiness, arrogance, manipulation, possessiveness, emotional immaturity, and perfectionism too are signs of rejections.
Just imagine how some of these kids react due to some form of rejection. We need to continue to observe the following behavior, rebellion: “nobody loves me” I’ll do my own will”, witchcraft, domination and being manipulative to others, nail biting, bed wetting, thumb sucking, nervousness, chronic lust problems, retaliation, promiscuity, fantasy lust or the use of pornography, jealous, envy, schizophrenia, double-mindedness, and paranoia.
In the meantime, we need to deal with rejection. FORGIVE! The Word of God says, “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins” Matthew 6:14-15 NLT
The Word of God says, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of malicious behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:31-32 NLT
If you choose not to forgive those who wronged or hurt you, let’s see that the Lord says in Matthew. Jesus ends a parable about a man who would not forgive a man of small debit with this statement, “And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him. So my heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses”. Matthew 18:34-35 NKJV
***Cancer and arthritis can come in through the sin of unforgiveness. If you are or know someone with these diseases see if they have unforgiveness in the heart. The Word of God says, “A relaxed attitude lengthens life; jealousy rots it away” Proverbs 14:30 ***
In conclusion, we need to continue to pray for our children and ourselves too. This article is designed for adults and children. Adults may struggle with some type of rejection from early childhood, which have already interfered within their adulthood. We have all experience some type of rejection. The key is being delivered and set free. Please recite the prayer and at the end inhale and exhale.
Prayer for Rejection
Thank you for assuring me that you will never leave me nor forsake me. Even if others turn against me, you are always there. Lord, I confess that I have not loved, but have resented certain people who hurt or disappointed me and have held bitterness and unforgiveness in my heart. I call upon you, Lord to help me to forgive them.
The rejection I have experienced from [Name the Person(s) both living and dead] causes me hurt and anguish, but I know this is not your will for me. By faith and an act of my will, in obedience to your Word, I choose to forgive [Name the Person(s) both living and dead] for the pain and hurt his/her words and actions have brought to me. I receive your healing Lord and I pray for [Name the Person(s) living] that you will bless him/her with a knowledge of your will in all things. I ask you to forgive them also and bless them in every area of their lives. I do now forgive and accept myself in the Name of Jesus Christ.
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